Nikaah Kahaan Karein? | Apni Biraadri Me Nikaah Aur Deendaar Aurat Ki Talaash

Nikaah Kahaan Karein Apni Biraadri Me Nikaah Aur Deendaar Aurat Ki Talaash
★ Nikaah Kahaan Karein? ★

Aaj kal nikaah ke mauqe par sirf shakal-o-suraat, maal aur daulat dekhi jaati hai. Lekin hamare Deen ne bataya hai ke nikaah kahaan aur kis se karna chahiye. Yeh post Ahadith-e-Mustafa (sallAllahu alaih-e-wa-sallam) aur mu'tabar kitaabon ke hawalon se is masle ki mukammal rehnumai karti hai.

📜 Hadees: Apni Biraadri Me Nikaah

Ummul-Mu'mineen Hazrat Aa'ishah Siddiqah, Hazrat Anas bin Maalik aur Hazrat Abdullah ibn Umar (radiAllahu anhum) se riwaayat hai ke Huzoor Akram (sallAllahu alaih-e-wa-sallam) ne irshaad farmaya:

تَخَيَّرُوا لِنُطَفِكُمْ فَانْكِحُوا الْأَكْفَاءَ وَأَنْكِحُوا إِلَيْهِمْ

Tarjuma: "Apne numafa (shaadi) ke liye achi jagah talash karo; apni biraadri me byaah karo, aur (doosron ko) apni biraadri me byaah karne do — aur aurat apne hi kundan (biraadri) ke mardon me milte hue bacchon ko (sab se zyada) jaanti hai."

(Ibne Maaja Shareef, Jild 1, Hadees no. 2038, Safha no. 549)

Is hadees se pooch se pata chalta hai ke apni hi biraadri me nikaah karna behtar hai. Apni biraadri me hi nikaah karne ke bahut se faayade hain:

💡 Biraadri Me Nikaah Ke Faayade

  • Pehla faayada: Aulaad apni biraadri ke logon ke gharo me milti julti paida hogi, jis ke bajah se doosre log dekhte hi pehchaan lete hain ke yeh kis ki aulaad hai — kaun si shaan ki, kaun se gharane ki.
  • Doosra faayada: Biraadri ki gareeb ladkiyon ko jald se jald shaadi ho jaati hai.
  • Teesra faayada: Apni hi biraadri ki ladki ho to woh bhai-bhabhi ke taur-tareeqe aur ghar me rehne-sehne ke baare me pehle se jaanti hai; lihaza ghar me jhagde aur na-qaabiliyan nahi hoti.
  • Chautha faayada: Biraadri ki aisi ladkiyan jo dekhne-dikhane me zyada khoobsurat nahi hoti, unki bhi shaadi ho jaati hai.
  • Panchwa faayada: Aksar dekha gaya hai ke log doosri biraadri ki khoobsurat ladkiyan byaah kar laate hain, jabke un ki biraadri ki baaki ladkiyan kumari hi rah jaati hain. Bahut si ladkiyan jin ki shaadi na ho paati, kisi badmash, aazaar ya mand ke saath bhaag jaati hain, ya phir tarah tarah ki buraiyon me fans jaati hain. Yehi wajah hai ke biraadri me hi shaadi karna behtar bataya gaya hai.

📜 Ahadith: Behtar Nasl Aur Saaliha Aurat

Hazrat Imaam Bukhari (radiAllahu anhu) riwaayat karte hain ke:

وَأَنْكِحُوا الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ

Tarjuma: "Aur mustahab (behtar) yahi hai ke apni nasl ke liye behtar aurat chuni jaaye — lekin yeh wajib nahi, (yeh) sirf mustahab hai."

(Bukhari Shareef, Jild 3, Baab no. 41, Safha no. 56)

Hazrat Anas (radiAllahu anhu) se riwaayat hai ke Nabi-e-Kareem (sallAllahu alaih-e-wa-sallam) ne irshaad farmaya:

وَتَزَوَّجُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ

Tarjuma: "Acchi (saaliha) nasl me shaadi karo — (saaliha aurat) apna kaam khud karti hai."

(Tabarani Shareef, Safha no. 26)

Aur farmaya Aap (sallAllahu alaih-e-wa-sallam) ne:

إِيَّاكُمْ وَخُرَّاءَ الدَّارِ مِنَ الْمَرْأَةِ

Tarjuma: "Chori ki hirsahli (buri laparwah) se bacho — buri nasl se (aayi hui) khoobsurat aurat se bacho."

(Tabarani Shareef, Safha no. 26)

⚖️ Sirf Khoobsurti Kaafi Nahi

Ladki ka khubsurat hona hi kaafi nahi — balkay khubi to yeh hai ke ladki parhi-likhi ho, namaz-rozay ki paband ho, us ka khaandan rehne-sehne, ta'ah-uq-o-iftalaq aur khaas taur par majhabi aqaa'id me behtar ho. Aur agar aap ne yeh sab cheezon ko dekh kar nikaah kiya to aap ki duniya aur aakhirat kaamyaab hai, aur aage aisi ladki ke zarie farmabardar, majhabi aur duniyawi khubiyon waali behtar nasl jame legi. Chunanche hukmare do aalam (sallAllahu alaih-e-wa-sallam) ne hamein yehi hukm diya:

Hazrat Abu Hurairah aur Hazrat Jaabir (radiAllahu anhuma) se riwaayat hai ke Huzoor Akram (sallAllahu alaih-e-wa-sallam) ne irshaad farmaya:

تُنْكَحُ الْمَرْأَةُ لِأَرْبَعٍ لِمَالِهَا وَلِحَسَبِهَا وَلِجَمَالِهَا وَلِدِينِهَا فَاظْفَرْ بِذَاتِ الدِّينِ تَبِتْ يَدَاكَ

Tarjuma: "Aurat se chaar cheezon ki bajah nikaah kiya jaata hai — us ke maal, us ke khandan, us ke hoon-o-jamal aur us ke deen-daar hone ki bajah se — lekin tu deen-daar aurat ko haasil kar (warna tera haath khaali rahega)."

(Bukhari Shareef, Jild 3, Safha no. 59)

Lihaza is hadees se ma'loom hua ke deen-daar aurat se nikaah karna sab se zyada behtar hai. Deen-daar aurat shehar ki mehmaan-nawaaz hoti hai aur thodi rozi par qunoot kar leti hai — us ke zarie aulaad gunah aur museebat se mehfooz rehne ki taqdeer banti hai.

📕 Fatawa Razawiyya Me Hai

"Deen-daar logon me shaadi karo, ke bacche par nana-nanoo ki aadaton aur harkaton ka bhi asar padta hai."

(Fatawa Razawiyya, Jild 9, Safha no. 46)

🚫 Husn Aur Maal Ki Bajah Shaadi Ka Khatra

Nabi-e-Kareem (sallAllahu alaih-e-wa-sallam) ne irshaad farmaya:

لَا تَنْكِحُوا النِّسَاءَ لِحُسْنِهِنَّ فَعَسَى حُسْنِهِنَّ أَنْ يُرْدِيَهِنَّ وَلَا تَنْكِحُوهُنَّ لِأَمْوَالِهِنَّ فَعَسَى أَمْوَالِهِنَّ أَنْ يُرْدِيَهِنَّ وَلَكِنْ انْكِحُوهُنَّ عَلَى الدِّينِ

Tarjuma: "Aurat se un ke husn ke sabab shaadi na karo — ho sakta hai un ka husn tumhe tabah kar de. Na un se maal ki bajah se shaadi karo — ho sakta hai un ka maal tumhe gunahon me mubtala kar de. Balkay deen ki bajah se nikaah karo. Kaali, chapet, bad-soorat loondi agar deen-daar ho to behtar hai."

(Ibne Maaja Shareef, Jild 1, Hadees no. 1926, Safha no. 522)

Imam Ghazali (radiAllahu anhu) irshaad farmate hain:

"Agar koi aurat khoobsurat to hai, magar parhezgaar wa paasa nahi, to buri baat hai — bad-mizaj aurat na rakkum-gujaar hoti hai, na zuban-daraz, aur be-ja hukumat karti hai; aisi aurat ke saath ji-ne-wala bhi majboor ho jaata hai aur deen me khalaal padta hai."

(Kimiya-e-Sa'adat, Safha no. 260)

💡 Deendaari Sab Se Zyada Ahem Hai

Yaad rakhiye! Agar aap ne sirf aisi ladki se nikaah kiya jo maal wa daulat (jahaz) khoob saath layi aur khoobsurat bhi bahut thi, lekin deendaar nahi — aur na ta'ah-uq-o-iftalaq ke mamle me behtar — to aap us ke saath yaqeenan ek acchi aur khushhaal zindagi nahi guzaar sakte. Aisi ladki ki bajah se ghar me hamesha tang-rehti rehti hai aur aakhirkaar maa-baap se bhi door ho jaata hai.

Isliye jahaan aap khoobsurti, maal wa daulat ko dekhte hain, un sab se zyada zaroori hai ke aap us ka akhlaq, us ka khaandan, aur khaas taur par yeh zaroor dekhein ke woh deendaar hai ya nahi. Tabhi aap ek kaamyaab zindagi ke maalik ban sakte hain.

Agar ek khoobsurat ladki me yeh khubiyan nahi, aur us ke ulat kisi bad-soorat ladki me deendaari hai, to woh bad-soorat ladki us khoobsurat ladki se behtar hai.

Aksar hame bhai daulat-mand, feishan-parast ladkon par marte hain aur daulat ko bahut ahmiyat dete hain — jabke daulat se zyada deendaari ko ahmiyat deni chahiye.

Huzoor Akram (sallAllahu alaih-e-wa-sallam) ne irshaad farmaya:

Tarjuma: "Jo koi jamal (khoobsurti) ya maal wa daulat ki khatir kisi aurat se nikaah karega, to woh dono se mehroom rahega. Aur jab deen ke liye nikaah karega, to dono maqsad poore honge."

(Kimiya-e-Sa'adat, Safha no. 260)

Aur farmaya Rasoolullah (sallAllahu alaih-e-wa-sallam) ne:

Tarjuma: "Aurat ki talab deen ke liye hi karni chahiye, jamal (khoobsurti) ke liye nahi." Is ka ma'ani yeh hai ke sirf khoobsurti ke liye nikaah na kare — na yeh ke khoobsurti door hi ho — agar nikaah karne se maqsad aulaad haasil karna aur sunnat par amal karna ho, to kisi shakhs ka maqsad khoobsurti nahein, to yeh parhezgari hai.

(Kimiya-e-Sa'adat, Safha no. 260)

Allah (Ta'aala) irshaad farmata hai:

إِن يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ

Tarjuma: "Agah woh fakir (ghareeb) honge, to Allah unhe apne fazl se gani kar dega."

(Kanz-ul-Imaan, Para 18, Soorah An-Noor, Ayat 32)

Lihaza agar kisi ladki me deendaari zyada ho, chahe woh kitni hi gareeb kyun na ho, us se shaadi karna behtar hai. Kya ajab ke Allah ta'ala us se shaadi karne ki aur us ki barkat se aap ko bhi daulat se nawaaz de. Aap ko us nek aur gareeb ladki se woh hi khushi w sukoon mil sakta hai, jo ek daulat-mand, bad-mizaj, modern feishan-pari ladki se kabhi nahi mil sakta.

Haan, agar koi daulat-mand ladki deendaar bhi ho aur acche akhlaq waali bhi ho, aur us se shaadi ki jaaye, to yeh bahut badi khaush-naseebi ki baat hai. Be-shak Allah maal wa daulat wa chehron ko nahi dekhta, balkay taqwa wa parhezgari ko dekhta hai.

✅ Khulasa (Summary)

  • Apni biraadri me nikaah karne me aulaad ki pehchaan, gareeb ladkiyon ki jald shaadi, ghar me aahang aur ladkiyon ki hifazat ke bahut se faayade hain.
  • Aurat chaar cheezon ke liye pasand ki jaati hai — maal, khandan, husn aur deen — lekin Huzoor (sallAllahu alaih-e-wa-sallam) ne farmaya: deen-daar aurat ko haasil kar.
  • Sirf shakal aur daulat dekh kar shaadi karna duniya aur aakhirat dono ki tabahi ka sabab ban sakta hai; deendaari aur ache khandan ko tarjeeh dein.

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